Once you’ve met someone, whether at a party or a dating app, and you both have decided to finally go out and have a date, this is when it gets kind of intense. You know you both are interested in each other, and now it’s just about wanting to see if there is a genuine connection beyond physical appearances. Oftentimes, the date isn’t planned out well enough for it to go smoothly, so here’s a few tips to help make that possible.
– Avoid Digging Too Deep Into Their Life
You don’t want to ask too many questions about his personal life. We don’t need to know about the time his parents went through that struggle back in the early 90’s. You want the conversation to flow. You should also avoid spreading too much about who you are either. The term TMI, Too Much Information, is one that very much applies to dates and is a no-go.
– Let Conversations Naturally Go
Make it a goal not to focus on where the conversation is going but instead what you can add to it. Conversations are all about going back and forth and taking turns. The goal isn’t just to ask direct questions but instead to ask open-ended questions where they can give you the elaborate answer through a story. This is when it gets fun, because once a story is shared, it can open up the door for you to find a story that continues off of his. This can continue for hours upon hours if done the right way.
– Choose A Place That Will Keep you Both Busy
If ever awkward silence ensues, it’s rough to find something to talk about. This is why you want your first date to be somewhere pretty fun so that there is no chance for losing out on a good convo. There is always something to talk about when you’re at a theme park, carnival, arcade, mini golfing, or any place similar.
– Be The Enhanced Version of Yourself
In the end, your goal should be to showcase the most enhanced version of yourself. This means to still be yourself but the most exciting version of it. Don’t overdo anything. You want every choice you make to be as genuine as possible while still showcasing your best self. The goal is also to look your best and look like your photos, because unless you met from a speed dating event site like at Cityswoon where you already met them before, if you meet them from an app, you don’t want them being confused that you don’t look like your photos.
Having a first date is always confusing and different if you haven’t been on one in a while. It’s scary to think about it, but the key is to stay alert and listen to your date. Listen to their stories and what they are saying so that you genuinely can pay attention and give them your thoughts about it afterwards.